The Way You Make Me Feel

“There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved.  It is God’s finger on man’s shoulder.” ~Charles Morgan

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The Way You Make Me Feel

Love is the sweetest, most unbareable, delightful, gut-wrenching emotion that human beings experience. It has more faces than Joan Rivers and reveals itself in ways that are both wonderfully exciting and terrifying. Love is the emotion that made you poop your pants while watching the Notebook and trying to get your first kiss. Love is the way your heart glows when your younger brother tries to imitate you. Love is that not-so-movie-like first kiss on a bright summer day (after which she proceeded to walk away). It’s the way her head fits perfectly on your shoulder, the way he looks right into your eyes, and the way you keep pushing through all of the battles lovers face. I know what you’re thinking and no, I’m not going to go through Corinthians.

In my Western Civilizations class today, my professor asked the class if anyone knew what it felt like to be in love. She started to describe the back and forth emotions of being blissfully happy one moment and utterly pathetic the next. To my surprise, no one raised their hand. Now I may be the only fool-hearted idealist in the bunch, but I know that feeling all too well.

The feelings that I’m referring to are the ones that take usually take place at the beginning of a relationship. These are the moments before security, the uncertainty before certainty. We tend to think of love as a graceful ballet in which there is a heroic pursuit. The movies have led us to believe that finding one’s true love is as easy as crossing the street. Once found, that love will resist for about an hour and a half before both parties agree to live happily ever after. That is, unless the movie in question is The Notebook. In which case, the hearts of all those involved are systematically removed from the participants’ chests only to be trampled upon by clydesdales. They are then put in a blender and set to liquify. After which, the hearts will be mended and returned in about 10 minutes.

The Initiation

This is the part of the story where both parties simultaneously, or independently realize that the set of eyes across from theirs are looking deeper than the surface. This is probably the slowest phase of the early relationship process because we have yet to lose our rationality. At first the person is a potentiality, nothing more. In a world of endless potentialities, we aren’t usually too overwhelmed with the thought of a new relationship. But we are excited.

The Nervousness (up & down)

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Up- This is the bliss that transcends every other reasonable worry or concern. When a person feels truly loved and appreciated, their soul seems to spring forth and push a smile to the surface so large it can hardly be contained. You know that look on your best friend’s face when he/she returned from a first date (not to be confused with the look of dread on the face of the girl who kissed the boy with poopy pants)? That is love. I know this feeling because I know what it’s like when your friends see you after that first date and you are completely unable to talk. Being a self proclaimed talkaholic, when all I can muster is the response “good” to the question, “how was the date?” that’s a very good sign. I do believe that love takes our breath away, but sometimes not immediately.

Down- Love is not always easy and often times it is extremely painful. In fact, if love isn’t painful then it isn’t love. If you’re not fighting for the strength and consistency of your relationship, then you’re not being truly honest with one another. All that said, the down I’m referring to is that uneasy feeling when she hasn’t texted you back in a couple days, or that nervous anticipation where all you do is sit at home all day wondering if and when he’s going to call. What’s so ironic is that the down is so necessary in the love process. It’s absolutely necessary to experience the vulnerability of potential heartbreak in order to fully appreciate the joy of companionship. This process is a fight because love is worth fighting for.

The L word

Now, our culture takes issue with the word “love.” My professor today examined the way that the word love has so many

different meanings, but we understand them all (for the most part). I personally find nothing wrong with the idea of people telling each other that they love one another because I would rather they exaggerate a good emotion then hide a great emotion. That said, just because a girl tells you that she loves you, don’t go out and buy a ring. What’s the difference between “I Love You,” and “I’m in love with you?” ….I’m in. Think about it.

“Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly.” ~Rose Franken

Do you have any good love stories you feel like sharing?

Joanna Branson Photography

Music that Inspired this blog.

I and Love and You-  The Avett Brothers

The Avalanche- Sufjan Stevens

Gotta Have  You- The Weepies


8 responses to “The Way You Make Me Feel

  1. When I read “the way he looks into your eyes” I just thought of that particular instance pertaining directly to you. But besides that microscopic detail, I think you nailed the head on the hit.
    Especially the in love vs simply love. That shit sucks, no doubt. The “in love” is a huge ass step, one huge as step that often leads to more than a sprained ankle.

    I havn’t shit my pants on a date yet, though. I gotta look into that.

    • dude, that’s how you get all the hits. either that or you go the way of your blog and put up pictures of naked people and call it art.

  2. Jordo, you did it once again. Not only did this entry make me feel warm inside, but it also made me want to crawl in a hole because I haven’t felt those feelings of “love” in so long. You’re completely right…its worth the fight. its worth the wait. and its worth the feeling of wanting to slit my wrists. all that to say, love is such a beautiful, deep, and intricate emotion and action. and you my friend have somehow expressed it beautifully and eloquently. well done.

    Anyways, fabulous post. and i am in love with the songs that inspired you. Some of those are my favorites 🙂

  3. Great blog JP,
    it sure got me thinking – but it also made me wonder, when is “fighting for it” too much – made me reassess a few things for sure-
    thanks for that 🙂

  4. Hey Jordan. Remember me? I worked with you last year at the awful steak house for a couple months. 🙂 I like the way you write. Your wisdom is beyond your years. 🙂 Can’t wait to read more of your stuff. You’re still my favorite!

  5. oh and heres a good love story:

    my parents were married for 20 years. they got divorced because of an addiction my father was battling, and now, after 13 years of separation, they are starting to mend the tears and patch the holes. I caught them holding hands under the table at dinner. Love is hard, and painful and I am glad you said that. I think Hollywood has confused a lot of young people these days into thinking that if someone messes up or things aren’t mushy awesome, then you “aren’t meant to be”. That is so off. The best kinds of love that I’ve seen in my life are the ones that fought it out. The ones who don’t give up. I wont quote Corinthians wither, but I will say that if you want true love, you can’t run away when things get tough. Be true to yourself, but know that true love is stronger than you think.


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