Taking Sides

As a conservative Christian who grew up in the deep south, homosexuality is not a lifestyle choice topic I’m familiar with confronting. 

Like many Christians people, I’ve thus far been resolved to debate gay marriage and homosexuality in the kind of tip-toed broad terms that I also use to discuss things I don’t understand (see: economics). However the time has come to take a side, so here we go.


This semester I enrolled in a course called “Queer Theory” at the university. It’s taught by my advisor who’s a very intelligent woman who works in the English/Women Studies department. On the first day of class I was hit head first with a level of intelligent discussion which I would have never anticipated. 

As a Christian, homosexuality is a really hard topic to discuss because of a couple fundamental contradictions in the modern church. 

  1. The bible says homosexuality is a sin. 
  2. Christians are supposed to love everyone. 

As a band aid solution, I’ve known many friends (myself included) to gloss over the issue by saying that they don’t agree with gay marriage or homosexuality but that they choose to love the person anyways (despite their gayness I suppose). That’s kind of how I’ve always acted–sure I have a few gay acquaintances, but it would be quite a stretch to say that I’m socially surrounded by homosexuals. For a long time this has seemed to reconcile my opposing opinions that homosexuality is wrong and that all people deserve equality. But this class has helped me realize that ignorance is never admirable. 

One day when my kids ask me why people used to believe that homosexuals were a lesser class of human than heterosexuals, I refuse to answer them with “that’s just how it was.” If you don’t see the parallelism to the civil rights movement and all the struggles that African Americans had to go through in order to become equal citizens then you need to do some research (sorry if that sounds condescending). Whether or not you believe that homosexuality is a choice or an inherit characteristic of some humans (after hearing some stories from classmates, that opinion seems increasingly improbable), I don’t think it changes the fact that you should believe in equal rights as an American. 

I am a Christian. I believe that a man named Jesus died for my sins thousands of years ago and that is what will ultimately deliver me to salvation. 

I also believe that my job as a believer is to do my best to emulate Jesus’ lifestyle here on earth as best I can, which to me means loving those around me as best I can. I have never in my life met a single person who became a practicing Christianity by being bullied into it. Do I believe that homosexuals deserve the right to be married in the United States? Yes. 

We cannot conveniently claim freedom for all. If we are free, then so is everyone else. 

This is the most inspiring thing I’ve ever seen on the subject of Christians in regard to homosexuality, please take a moment to check it out. 

Part of freedom means that you have the freedom to think whatever you like, and thank God for that because it is wonderful. But I warn you now, I will not condone any hateful or violent comments on my blog. If you choose to post please keep that in mind. 

Thank you for reading. 


5 responses to “Taking Sides

  1. Jordan,

    Thank you for taking the time to actually think through this. Most people do as you suggest, take the easy way out.

    I think I would differ with from you in that I do not believe marriage is something that the Federal Government has any right trying to define. Marriage is a covenantal commitment between a man, woman, and God. Even historically, marriage has been the business of the church and not the civil government. I believe lines of authority have been surrendered that should never have been.

    So, even if the USA “legalizes” gay marriage. I really don’t think it matters. The very being of marriage is found in the character of Yahweh. He defines marriage, not man.

    I do agree with you regarding the abusive behavior of many Christians today. Christ did not support or enable the wrong actions of the people he ministered. He walked alongside them, and he loved them. He called them to walk out of their sin.

    Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for the chance to interact with you.

    • Good point Thomas and as always thanks for reading.

      I think you’re right about the difference of marriage being a church function as opposed to state in that churches should ultimately be able to determine who and how people are married in their church. I’m not very educated on the history of how marriage has remained a bridge between church and state, but I agree that it does seem odd in several ways.

      But I kind of wonder how we will look later on in history on this topic. While I believe that it’s a churches right to refuse to marry any one because they are free non governmental (although they are tax exempt) entities, I also wonder if that type of discrimination will be eventually compared to the racism of the civil rights movement.


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